Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Mother's Day and thinking about my mom!!!!

Mother's day always seems to sneak up each May.  As always it makes me think of the great mothers I know who have had an influence in  my life.  I feel so blessed to know so many amazing mothers who have been an example to me.   Mother's day also makes me think of my own dear mother.  It has been  over 26 years since my mom passing.  I had hoped as I aged that I wouldn't miss her as much as I do.  I think that whenever you lose your mother it is hard.  It isn't easy losing your biggest cheerleader every.  I still desire to be mothered in spite of my age.  Sometimes I would give anything to just be able to be with her again, right now. I  know she still loves me, but it isn't the same as it would be if she was alive.  I feel a tremendous loss for not being able to be with my mom like I would LOVE!!!

I think when you lose your mom at such a young age that you don't really realize what you are losing.  I hate to admit it, but when she died I was still in the stage where you mom is great, but you don't really want to hang out with her as much as you want to hang out with your friends.  I know this is quite normal, but it is still hard sometimes to except how I acted when she died.  Now I miss her so  much.  I think it is the hardest for me when I think what could have been if she had lived.  I know that is no way to think, for my emotional health, but still sometimes I do this.   Sometimes it is especially hard when you know so  many people who have their moms so involved in their life.  I  know my mom would have been a tremendous grandma and so it makes me so sad for what my children are missing out on because of her death.   I am not trying to sound like I judge others because of their relationship with their mom, because I think it is so sweet, but sometimes it hurts.

My mom when she was an older teenager.  She was beautiful inside and out and I am so grateful to know that someday I will be able to be with her again.  I don't want to die, but I do look forward to that day.